Yesterday was Tuesday, and I was convinced that today should be Friday. It's been one of those weeks. Not that it has been a bad week, I have had some great things happen in fact, but I'm just feeling out of sorts.
Today I got to spend a lot of time with the fabulous Ashley, both at lunch and at spin. As we devoured monstrous salads we discussed the usual's...running, working out, eating healthy, and on and on. In our discussion we started talking about feeling like we are "good enough."
Ash is incredible and has used WW to reach her goal weight. She is also an awesome runner, and just accomplished a 20 miler in training for her upcoming marathon. I look at this girl and think. DANG. Look at all she has accomplished.
Others might say the same of some of my accomplishments. I have run races, stuck to goals, made improvements, etc. Yet, I have never reached a point where I thought, there it is I made it to "good enough." I think there are positives and negatives to this, "imperfect syndrome." On the plus side it helps push us to do things we didn't realize were possible. It can help us to improve our health. It can make us better athletes. It can test our endurance and our strength. We need some of that drive in us to always want to be better. To keep improving ourselves. To a point...
We then get to a point where we can't see our accomplishments. This this is the negative side. We don't allow ourselves to enjoy the progress we have made, at least not for long. We are never skinny enough, strong enough, fast enough, pretty enough...etc. etc. etc. This is where we can push ourselves into the unhappy part of life where all we are ever doing is thinking...I'll be happy when...but in reality we keep increasing and changing our "when," so what we are really saying is, "I will never be happy." What kind of a life is that?
I think it is so sad that we do this to ourselves. We may disguise this type of self destruction as "pushing ourselves to be better," when in reality we are just pushing ourselves to an unreachable limit. So how do we stop this vicious cycle? How do we reach a point where we are happy with what we have accomplished and let our goals be positive instead of negative.
I've been thinking about this all day, and I'm hoping the following suggestions may help...
- Set realistic, reachable goals with a purpose. If your goal is to lose 15 pounds because you know that will be a healthier weight for you that is a positive goal. If you are doing it because you feel like you have to due to societal pressure that isn't so healthy.
- Look at the accomplishments you have made. Take a second to appreciate all you CAN do and HAVE done. I bet the list will be long.
- Don't obsesses over numbers. If you are really eating healthy and exercising you body will take on a healthy frame. Don't let a number on the scale dictate your level of happiness.
- Don't compare yourself to what you see in the magazine. It's not real, and usually it's not realistic. You are probably a lot prettier than that anyways.
- Set goals and push yourself. Get to know your limits. Set goals that will help you to improve.
- When you reach your goals be proud of yourself. Why set goals if you don't even allow yourself a victory dance when you get there?
Remember that you are capable of anything, but that you don't want to live your life constantly thinking that you aren't good enough. Sometimes it's more important to accept who you are and be proud of that. Celebrate your positives. Find things about yourself that you love and when you are starting to get down remind yourself of those things. Surround yourself with people that you love, and that love you back. They will always make you feel like a million bucks, even if you aren't feeling it that day. You are incredible, and don't you forget it.
Do you ever get a case of the, "imperfect syndrome?" I think we all do. It's hard not to sometimes. What do you do to combat it?